Brian's Takes and Views

       Although I feel that communication isn’t the most important thing in a relationship. It still stands as a valuable gem. Think about it, from infancy to the grand age of having time shown on our skin, we all need to learn to communicate. Communication is how we transfer some of our thoughts and feelings to another person. As we learn there are several ways to convey a message to someone. For a thought and feeling to be received correctly we need to put the right percentage of words, tones, and non-verbal into it. this could be way getting across what we mean some of the time gets lost in translation. This is why I find communication not the most important. It’s the things I say that usually causes a rift in my relationship.                 That’s the issue with communication, somewhere between encode and decoding the things we mean may at times get misunderstood. Especially in our day ...

                  Funny enough it was quite educational discussing sexual intimacy this week. Before anyone who reads this is nervous that I am just going to give the full scoop on my sex life. I’ll ease your minds and say that stuff is private and should be kept between husband and wife.   Saying that remind me of a time, I was on Facebook. Some random guy that I didn’t know personally, but I think was a friend of my siblings? He was hinting strongly that he wanted to know “how things were going”.   First of all, I don’t know you like that and even if I did. You aren’t getting me to spill the sacredness of my alone time with my wife. Anyway, I think I made my point, there will be no personal sex stories. I will, however talk about what makes meaningful sex and things I wasn’t aware when I was young, that I am glad I know now.            ...

                  This week’s lessons were us continuing learning about the steps we take towards marriage. Each phase we go through prepares us to enjoy the greatest life choice, I believe we can make. Which is in fact marriage. I can understand why someone would feel the need to postpone marriage.   It’s a big step one that makes the biggest difference in our lives. Looking around us it also seems nothing is ever built to last very long. I mean look the statistics; they say the chances for a divorce is way over fifty percent. They go on to say that most married couples end their marriages at either year two or year five. Why enter into such an arrangement when hardship seems so absolute?   However, divorce doesn’t have to be seen as just a part of life. We can and should expect someone to be with us always as apart of our lives. I believe this can be a reality. We can start to prepare ourselves f...

  In class we discussed about dating. Thinking about my experience dating, is a quiet humor of mine. My approach to dating could be seen as something laughable. Just, ask my brother I’m sure he’ll laugh for hours talking about it with you. Anyway, the biggest theme that was covered this week was the difference between hanging out and dating. The difference is dating is planned, paid for (preferably by the guy), and paired off.   Hangouts to me just requires people to exert the minimal effort to show up somewhere. I embraced this trend with my fellow cohort. Most people are afraid of rejection so they stick to the low pressure of a hangout. Perhaps, you’re like me and lack the ability for creativity and feels dating will suck the bank account dry. After dating seriously for so long maybe your heart just feels spent and needs a break. After experiencing 10 or so years of look for the best mate, learned a lot about making a complete fool of myself. My biggest mistake I feel I mad...

              This week for my family Relations class we discussed gender and homosexual relationships. I learned things I didn’t understand before. Being a heterosexual male and always being that way. I don’t think I can ever know what it’s like to have same gender attraction. Diving deeper inside I understand it’s not about what’s I feel is wrong or right about it. Its about the person. Gay people are people and should be treated as such. They struggle with some the hardest things a person can encounter. A wounded gender ID, sexual abuse, bullying, and parental connections are few things yet encounter early in their life.   I acknowledge there is so much, sensitivity around sexual orientation, but I don’t understand why? If you desire a same sex attraction life so be it. If someone wants to change and I do believe change is possible then someone should be able to seek guidance with that. To say some is born that way is j...

              The things I learned about this week made me reflect on my childhood and how, I was raised by my parents. I recognize how blessed I was to know both sides of my biology. Having a dad in the home, I believe helped me find my identity. Knowing both parents plays a huge role in our lives. The research shows that having both parents present an increase in a child’s wellbeing. Academically, socially, emotionally and cognitively. The results of these areas only improve when child rearing is done in the bounds of matrimony.             My parents got marriage in my mid-teens years and I love that my parents stayed together. There decision to be marriage made, marriage more important to me. Having my parents married made me feel closer to my father. Having a father present is especially important as well. Having a father/husband in the home prevents adverse impacts ...