Communication

 

    Although I feel that communication isn’t the most important thing in a relationship. It still stands as a valuable gem. Think about it, from infancy to the grand age of having time shown on our skin, we all need to learn to communicate. Communication is how we transfer some of our thoughts and feelings to another person. As we learn there are several ways to convey a message to someone. For a thought and feeling to be received correctly we need to put the right percentage of words, tones, and non-verbal into it. this could be way getting across what we mean some of the time gets lost in translation. This is why I find communication not the most important. It’s the things I say that usually causes a rift in my relationship.

                That’s the issue with communication, somewhere between encode and decoding the things we mean may at times get misunderstood. Especially in our day people get so bent out of shape. People are sharing thoughts and feelings that are so, mean. Yet everyone is saying no cares what others thinks of them. I think everyone is just confused. I don’t blame them, we in live in a complex time. I large contributor to this mean message senders are social media and texting. When we take away tone and non-verbal cues. We are then left with 100% words so of course miscommunication is going to follow. Of course, offense is going to be taken.

                If  so, much trouble comes from talking to each other why do we do it? why don’t just lock the doors to our homes. Forget about connecting with the outside world and bunker down in solitude. Plainly and simply we need deep rooted connections with people. We are social beings that flourish when we have positive and health relationship with other people. It was an older brother of mine that taught me we all can learn to say things better. I learned how right he was. By having empathy, assertiveness, and respect our conversations would have merit and purpose to others. We should be giving this kind of attention in the way we speak to our loved ones. But I am afraid we have gotten to comfortable with speaker harshly to neighbors and strangers. We may think we are anonymous when say hurtful and harsh things over social media. We may think nothing we come of it. I am afraid it has a larger impact on our hearts that we realize.

                I have been talking pretty general about others speak to each other. Husbands and Wives should truly have away to handle conflicts when it surfaces. I said at the beginning that the things I say usually get my wife mad. Sometimes yes, but sometimes she doesn’t quite understand or I don’t quite understand her. But we see this has an opportunity to get to know each other better. a change we can feel God together. When we involve God in our disputes, we soften our hearts enough to put the other first. Instead of going from pain to blame. We skip past blame and go straight to compassion. This defiantly pulls us together. Funny enough even though we love each other we, we do trip up and we spend to much time in blaming. But, one of us always stops the cycle and we are quick to forgive.

                If your ever stuck in your relationship discuss with the Lord and be willing to follow any direction, he gives you. When we kneel in prayer, we subject ourselves to God’s all-knowing view. I have that this direction and guidance has always brought me closer to my wife and my wife closer to my heart.